Choosing Appropriate Attire
Choosing Appropriate Attire for a Funeral or Memorial Service
What you wear to a funeral or memorial should reflect respect for the person who has passed and sensitivity to their family’s traditions. For more traditional services—especially those held in a place of worship—men and women typically opt for modest, conservative clothing in darker tones like black, navy, or gray. On the other hand, a celebration of life may allow for more relaxed or personalized attire, depending on the tone of the event.
When selecting your outfit, consider the setting, the family’s wishes, and any cultural or religious customs. For example, certain faiths may ask attendees to wear specific colors or dress modestly, covering arms and legs. If the family has chosen a color theme or a more casual dress code, it’s thoughtful to follow their lead.
Ultimately, your clothing should not draw attention to you, but rather show quiet support and care. Simple, respectful choices—and any meaningful personal touches—are a thoughtful way to honor the occasion.
Funeral Outfits for Women
When attending a funeral or memorial service, women are generally expected to wear conservative, respectful attire. A dress, skirt, or slacks paired with a modest blouse or sweater is appropriate for most settings. Neutral or subdued colors like black, gray, navy, or earth tones are traditional, unless the family has requested otherwise. Bright colors, bold prints, or overly casual items like jeans or leggings are typically best avoided unless specified by the family.
Footwear should be comfortable and appropriate for the setting—flats or low heels are ideal. While athletic shoes may not be suitable for a formal service, they may be perfectly acceptable for outdoor memorials or scattering ceremonies that involve walking. Jewelry should be simple and understated. Depending on cultural customs or the weather, a hat or head covering may also be appropriate and appreciated.
What Men Should Wear to a Funeral
For a traditional funeral, men are generally expected to wear dark, conservative attire. A classic suit in black, navy, or gray is always appropriate, but if you don’t own a suit, dress pants with a sport coat or blazer will also suffice. Pair your outfit with a collared shirt in a neutral tone—white or light blue are common choices. If you choose to wear a tie, opt for subtle patterns and avoid bright or bold colors unless it’s been requested as part of the tribute.
Dress shoes or loafers complete the outfit. Casual wear like jeans, sneakers, shorts, or sandals should be avoided unless the family has specifically noted a relaxed dress code or the service is informal in nature.
Formal vs. Casual Services
Today, more families are choosing to hold informal celebrations of life rather than formal funerals. When this is the case, the family may include details about dress—such as wearing a specific color, sports jerseys, or other themed attire. If no guidance is given, use the location and tone of the event as a clue. Services in places of worship generally call for more formal, conservative dress, while those in parks or restaurants may allow for something more relaxed.
If you worked with the deceased and your job involves a uniform, wearing it can be a respectful way to show unity and honor their memory.
Dressing for the Season
Summer Services:
Dressing respectfully while staying cool is important in warm weather. Lightweight fabrics like cotton, linen, or chambray are excellent options. Men might choose short-sleeved button-ups and breathable trousers. Avoid shorts and graphic tees unless specifically approved. Sunglasses may be appropriate for outdoor services.
Winter Services:
In colder months, prepare for outdoor burial services or longer ceremonies by dressing in layers. A dark overcoat, wool blazer, or thick sweater over your shirt and tie will keep you warm while remaining respectful. Accessories like scarves, gloves, and hats are practical and acceptable, especially outdoors.
Adding a Meaningful Touch
A tasteful personal detail can be a thoughtful tribute, especially when it reflects something meaningful about the deceased. Consider subtle items like:
- A flag pin for a veteran
- A floral tie in memory of a gardener
- A leather jacket for a biker friend
- Cowboy boots to honor a western spirit
- Aviator sunglasses for a pilot
These personal touches can add warmth to your attire while remaining respectful. If you’re unsure about what’s appropriate, don’t hesitate to ask a family member or call the funeral home—our team is here to help you feel comfortable and confident as you pay your respects.
